How to Not Be Passive Aggressive with Your Coworkers

how to not be passive aggressive

There are few topics related to the workplace as a social situation that attract as much attention as the idea of passive aggressive behavior. One must agree it’s normal. Being cooped up for eight or nine hours every day, five days a week with complete strangers, most of whom are competing with you can lead to passive aggression. However, that is not the way to go. Here’s how to not be passive aggressive.

1. Do Not Purposefully Withhold Information

Not passing on important information to some or all of your coworkers means that you are being passive aggressive toward them. Your reasons for doing this can be varied. You are either holding a grudge or simply trying to get ahead. However, remember that this is not the way to do it.

2. Do Not Avoid Face to Face Confrontation

Some people adopt this behavior not because they are shy, introverts or socially awkward but because they embrace an aggressive behavior at work. This is achieved by means of email or post it notes rather than speaking to people in person.

3. Do Not Oppose Change

If certain suggestions regarding change or some improvements around the office do not harm or offend you personally, there is no reason why you should resist them. If you do, you might be doing them simply out of spite or to be passive aggressive. In other words, you’re just trying to show everyone you have a problem with them and the company, and that you don’t like to work there.

4. Do Not Waste Sick Days

Here’s how to not be passive aggressive. Do not use your sick days when you don’t need to. If you need a day off because you are overworked, or you simply feel sad or depressed, talk to your manager and explain the situation. The worst thing you can do is invent a disease for yourself and then spend the day shopping. You might run into someone from the office. When the word gets out, everyone will know you were being passive aggressive. Honesty is always the best policy.

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5. Do Not Arrive Late

This is one of the worst things you can do at work on more levels than you can imagine. First of all, it’s completely against the rules. While your manager might turn the blind eye the first few times, he or she will definitely hold you responsible when it becomes a habit. Second of all, it is against any type of work ethic to constantly arrive late for your job. Third of all, it is highly disrespectful toward all your colleagues to show up late every day. They have to come on time and do their job while you can simply waltz in half an hour later like nothing has happened.

In a funny turn of events, there are some voices who have compared the idea of being passive aggressive in the office with nailing Jello to a wall. The reasoning behind it is that the individual who does it can’t really explain the behavior when he or she could simply act mature and responsible and take the high road when something is bothering them. Write to us in the comment section below to let us know how to not be passive aggressive in your office.

Author: Amanda Knowles

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