What do The Bachelor and your job search have in common?

What do The Bachelor and your job search have in common?

EVERYTHING! On The Bachelor, you have 25+ women fighting for the affection of one man. Your job search can be more daunting as you vie for a position against 100+ applicants.

The Introduction Video and the resume.

The producers of the show screen through hundreds of videos to narrow down the chosen few that will receive an in-person interview and then appear on screen. Sound familiar? Sure, it does. 

The First Impression Rose and the initial phone call.

The Bachelor meets the “applicants” for the position of wife and decides who really stood out. The recipient of the first-impression rose gets the initial one-on-one meeting, so as to sway him to move on. But this can either lead to more dates or their last episode.

The initial phone call with the hiring manager or HR representative is a little different, but you do need to influence that person, to move on in the interview process or it all ends right there. 

The Cocktail Party and the job fair.

The similarities here are the most comparable. The contestants are waiting to speak to the Bachelor; some get some time, some don’t get enough time; others don’t get any time, and cry in the corner.

At the job fair, you may have a specific person (or department) you’re trying to speak with. You have to wait for the person in front of you to complete their conversation AND make sure no one cuts in front of you AND you have enough time to convince the representative to possibly call you for an interview. 

The Rose Ceremony and the interview.

If you have wooed the bachelor sufficiently and are fortunate enough to receive a rose at the ceremony, that just means you’re good enough to move on to the next episode. There is still a long way to go before receiving the final rose.

If the interview goes well, you should have, at the very least, a notion if you received a rose. “I thought we had a connection,” is a common phrase on the show. You probably had a connection if:

  • the HR rep or hiring manager walked you around the office after the interview
  • you were asked what your salary requirement or current salary is
  • asked how soon can you start

The Final Rose and the job offer.

When the bachelor offers the final rose, should the contestant accept it? We have often, and for the majority of The Bachelor seasons, seen the couple not stay together. A perfect example of this is Chris the Farmer and Whitney, the Fertility Nurse. We all sat there and said, “No way is she going to be happy feeding pigs, on a farm, hours from a hospital, with no career.” And we were right.

If offered the position, think it out. Do you really want it? Is it too far to drive, enough salary, or the right company for you? Remember, it’s ok to take a job for the short term, especially if it gets you back in workforce. This position does not have to be your final destination.

The Fantasy Suite of job search tips.

So what have we learned from this allegory? A lot, if you read between the lines. Here are some tips, from my job search experiences:

  1. Get noticed, but don’t be the crazy bachelorette, like Lace or Ashley S. You need to stand out from the crowd without raising red flags. Highlight your talents early in your resume and keep your LinkedIn page current and relevant.
  2. Always be ready for the phone call from the recruiter. They can call at any time. Smile when answering the phone (try it). Have a simple greeting prepared; Hi, Chuck Winkler speaking (smiling). Make sure your voice-mail message is professional and audible. Remember, you are at work when you are looking for work.
  3.  Be patient, but firm, when waiting to speak to a representative at a job fair. You have an agenda (and that’s ok). Make sure you speak to everyone you want to speak to. Just take that scowl of your face while that person in front of you keeps droning on. Life is a snapshot. If the recruiter sees you are frustrated, it’s usually game over.
  4. During your interview, be ON. That includes walking in the building, or for that matter, when you are nearing the venue of your interview. When I say ON, I mean walking proud, sitting up straight in the lobby, with a smile on your face. And please turn off your cellphone.

I’m taking a second paragraph here because this is really an important part of your job search. Be engaged with your interviewer(s) at all times:

  • Eye contact is key.
  • Be prepared with:
    • copies of your resume and other position-related paperwork.
    • a portfolio to visually show your accomplishments and skills.
    • a list of questions concerning your position and the company.
  • Have your opening statement ready­—Who are you?
  • Know what they are going to ask, before they ask.
    • Why do you want this position?
    • Why are you qualified for this position?
    • What can you bring to this position to add value?
    • What do you do outside of work?
    • Do you have any questions for me/us?

After the interview.

  1. Be sure to follow up with a thank you note. Send notes to everyone you interviewed with. You should have requested their business cards. Email is acceptable, but if you have the address there is nothing wrong with sending a hand-written note. Make sure to mention a topic that came up during the interview. It shows you were listening.
  2. If offered the position—and I know this is hard—do not immediately accept without hearing what you are being offered, and/or receiving the offer package. Some questions you may ask yourself:
  • What salary are they offering? Is it on the low end of what I expected? Can I ask for more?
  • What are the benefits? This seems like an easy question, but look at the specifics of medical/dental/vision, vacation time, 401(k) match, and a whole lot more. Depending on your experience, some benefits are more important than others. Sometimes you can negotiate more vacation time, if moving into a senior position.

I say, if there is nothing else immediately on the horizon, take the job, but keep looking for something that will make you happier.

Good Luck on your Job Search!

I don’t think I’m saying anything revolutionary. Your best way of finding a job is to network. I was able to get my foot in the door, for all the positions I’ve had by networking, even before there was networking. All your resources should be utilized. Many of my colleagues who have lost their positions, have found new employment with people they worked with over 10 years ago. Good luck and stay positive.

Check out my other blog with résumé tips.

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[author] [author_image timthumb=’on’]http://growthfreaks.com/wp-content/uploads/2016/07/Chuck-photo.jpg[/author_image] [author_info]Chuck Winkler is a pop-culture guru, that uses all of his influences to bring unique solutions to complex problems. With over 30 years of diverse business experience including: marketing, project management, database management, customer satisfaction and nuclear medicine (yes, nuclear medicine), he has helped both enterprise and small businesses exceed sales and revenue goals.[/author_info] [/author]

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