Do you have a hard time refusing anyone? Do you end up doing things that you initially didn’t want to do just because you couldn’t say no? Then you’re going to love what we’ve prepared for you today. Since a lot of us tend to agree to certain things just because we don’t want the other person to feel bad or to lose faith in us, we thought it would be useful to devise a guide on how to say no politely and get your priorities straight. Let’s have a look!
How to Say No Politely: A Comprehensive Guide
#Don’t Try to Excuse Yourself
Most of the time, whenever we have to refuse someone, we tend to provide them with an extensive explanation of why we can’t say yes. Stating a simple reason is completely fine. However, if you go into too many details, it will sound like you’re trying to excuse yourself for your decision. On the other hand, if you simply say you can’t, the other person won’t just assume that you’re declining without having a reason for it. Moreover, consider that a detailed excuse also gives the person asking for help the chance to try and persuade you that what you have to do can wait or that he or she can help you with it, so that you can help them in turn. That being said, saying a simple “no” can sound harsh. Thus, you can also add “unfortunately, I can’t” or “thank you for considering me.”
#Try to Offer an Alternative
If you truly want to help the person asking you for something, but you’re incapable of doing so at the moment, you can always suggest an alternative. This will let them know that you’re not using excuses not to be there for them, and care for them enough to think of a different solution. You can say something like “I can’t help you right now. But how do you feel about trying to solve this [insert another time]?” You can even use “some other time” instead of a specific schedule. Still, there’s something that you should know about this way of politely saying no. You should only use it if you’re really sure that you do want to say yes at some other point in time. Otherwise, if the other person relies on you and then gets rejected again, your relationship might suffer the consequences.
Offering an alternative can also mean that you have someone else in mind who might be able to help that person instead of yourself. If you know that’s an option, feel free to use it in order to politely refuse a request. Just make sure that the person you’re thinking of is truly able and willing to help. Don’t simply “throw them under the bus” just because you want to avoid being the one who helps.
Sometimes, saying no can be extremely difficult. Especially when it’s a close friend or family member who’s asking you for help. Still, you have to learn to get your priorities straight and do what’s best for you. We hope today’s guide on how to say no politely has helped you understand that.
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